#Communication 2

ON RAISING CONFIDENT CHILDREN!

To all parents or going-to-be parents (atleast some day in the future), here's something for you~

Its natural that all parents feel immense love for their children.. But whats not natural is that many do not express this love clearly!!

And as a result, they miss out on alot of confidence building power which goes wasted.

Today, we are going to highlight some KEY POINTS through which you would be able to give your kids a welcome boost and ensure that they are on the track of growing up to confident, smart adults..

1) SAY "I LOVE YOU" & GIVE THEM A REASON

Let your child know that you love him/ her for that creative article he/ she wrote for the school magazine.. or whatever it may be, say I Love You and state that reason - it sounds more brilliant, doesn’t it? And trust, this will boost their confidence too.

Remember - never give them an impression that there are 'strings attached' to your love and care. E.g. You wont love them as much if they did not get the highest percentage in the exam.

Let your child know that your love is unconditional. Even if you are angry with your child for something, let them know that you are dissatisfied with "what they did" but you love "them".. 

2) LOOK FOR YOUR CHILD'S STRENGTHS

Whatever it is that your child enjoys doing, give them a reason to do it more. For a child with logical skills, you could ask him/ her to tally your accounts after shopping or reorganize an overcrowded shelf or cupboard. This will boost their self-worth and also create an opportunity to build upon their strengths..

3) DEMONSTRATE SELF LOVE

Imbibe the quality of self love in your child. Let them know they are special and their life is precious. Help them develop healthy/ right choices from the early years. So even if it is about overeating OR lack of exercise OR addiction to smoking/ drinking, etc. they should feel that they value their life far more than harming themselves with such wrong habits. 

4) BE EMPATHETIC, NOT SYMPATHETIC

In the face of any challenges that your child may be facing, BE EMPATHETIC.. NEVER FEEL SYMPATHY in the face of difficulties as this will only make them feel more miserable. Help them understand that in life, we have the power of coming out of any challenging situation, if we do not allow the situation to overpower us..

5) THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE - LISTEN

When your child wants to speak to you, you must ACTIVELY LISTEN to them! Let them complete speak all they want before you start speaking! Often they feel more reassured with just your patient hearing, sincere silence and at times, a simple hug..

Try these simple ways of communicating effectively with your child and see the magic