Learn to Take a Compliment with Style

#Lifestyle

Today morning while waiting in the lift queue, I overheard bits of a conversation among two friends.. 

“You look pretty today” said one of them to the other
“Oh, come on!” the woman answered in disbelief, “I look awful and you know it.”

Friends, how many times has someone told you that you looked great and you responded with something like that…or like, “Me? Pretty? Oh my hair is such a mess!”  These are typical responses with which compliments are so often met.

Courtesy says that a response to compliments to the least is a “thank you”. Common sense says that it’s rude to contradict people who go out of their way to give a compliment. Sadly so, it seems that we have forgotten all this. Why so much resistance to compliments?

Is it that we feel uncomfortable when we are complimented? Or could it be possible that our casual and unintentional attitude makes us respond in this manner? Or could it be that our insecurities surface when we are complimented and we answer with an almost automatic and certain denial?

Could be, that for many of us - when we put ourselves down, we imagine that we are being polite. We attempt to put others at ease or boost them up, by pointing out that we, too, have our flaws. 

And what makes us “assume” that others are in such a sad state themselves that they’ll get a boost from comparing us negatively to themselves?

Regardless of the cause behind our comments, when I hear myself and others thoughtlessly and continually apologizing or putting ourselves down for nothing I have concluded the response is simply due to BAD HABIT.  May not necessarily be the evidence of insecurity or inadequacy- it seems like a THOUGHTLESS HABIT.  

And if it’s mainly a matter of habit, it shouldn't be that difficult to overcome, right?

Key Point: Take a few moments today, at home, driving in the car, wherever, and think through what you might feel comfortable saying the next time you receive a compliment..

You could smile "a big smile" and practice saying, "Thank you" :D

You might make someone’s day by saying, "Thanks, you just made my day" (y)

Or have some fun by smiling, sighing and saying, "Say it again" ;)

Or if you prefer, simply smile in response and enjoy the good that others see in you.. :)

Cheers! Have a great evening..